i was called to a conference by migo's teacher last tuesday. it wasn't the best day of my career as a mother. i was told that migo has been misbehaving a lot over the last 3 weeks. he's been having a tendency of hurting his classmates, although most of the time unintentionally. he's become aggressive in his dealings with his classmates the same way we (cesar and i) have become "aggressive" in dealing with him. his teacher also told me that although he is bright and intelligent, he keeps on saying aloud answers during written quizzes or sometimes looks at a classmate's quiz paper and if he sees an incorrect answer, he tells him/her what the answer should be. of course he doesn't really know why that is wrong, i know he only means to be of help. but he always has to be reminded not to do this because it is to each his own during these circumstances. another thing his teacher told me is that he changes lyrics to songs they sing in school. i know he just wants to be funny and he doesn't realize that it is something that is not right to do too.
so later that day, i had a heart-to-heart talk with him to explain his mistakes. i tried to be as calm as possible, trying oh so hard not to blame him but instead encouraged him to do more good things than the not-so-good. cesar and i talked about it too and decided not to spank his butt anymore and just do our best to calmly talk to him whenever he misbehaves. of course, our patience is definitely going to be put to the test here, especially cesar's.
to date, migo is still misbehaving.... irregularly. which means, he is also behaving....irregularly. i hope with more patience and consistency on our part as parents, we will be able to help him be a better person. with god's help, i'm sure we can do this. our unconditional love for migo will make it work.